Warning: this post is deeply personal, might contain snarky ideas and pessimism about the future. This is also quite a long post, so prepare yourself.
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Pacar-Pacaran
“Enggak punya pacar ya?”
“………”
“Udah lama ya enggak punya pacar?”
“………”
Begitulah percakapan saya dengan dokter saya pada suatu malam.
(Kalau-kalau ada yang panik dan bertanya-tanya “saya sakit apa?”, tenang saja. Saya tidak sakit apa-apa. Cuma lagi iseng saja pengen ke dokter. Kalau tidak ada yang panik ya alhamdulillah.)
Kembali ke pembicaraan saya dan dokter saya pada suatu malam tersebut.
See the Baby!
Kramer: She’s wondering when we’re gonna come over and see the baby
Jerry: Oh. See the baby. Again with the baby. He keeps calling us to see the baby. You gotta see the baby! When are you gonna see the baby? Can they just send us a tape?
Elaine: Maybe if you wait a few more months then it won’t be a baby anymore then you don’t have to see it
Jerry: Because they all grown up!
Jerry: It’s tough about seeing the people when they have a baby. You have to match their level of enthusiasm. They’re always so excited. “What do you think of them? What do you think?”
Just once I would like to meet a couple that goes, “you know we’re not too happy about them, frankly. I think we really make a big mistake, we should’ve gotten an aquarium.”
Seinfeld S03E18
That ‘First Night’
I came across Louie sometime ago when I accidentally changed the TV channel to FX. I have not yet become a fan and so far I have only watched a few episodes. However, the episodes that I watched have really touched me and I feel the need to share them.
One of the episodes that I watched was called Come On, God (S02E08). The whole episode was dedicated to masturbation, which is not the point of this post.
The point of this post is explained by the 2:50 minutes video below.
When I watched it the first time I laughed out loud. After that, I have not yet stopped wondering. Was it appropriate to laugh? Have I been mocking God? Have I been mocking people that worship God? After all, I am ‘keeping myself’ until I get married.
Anyway, regardless of what someone’s religion is, I guess this is the basic thought of why someone is ‘keeping themselves’ until they get married.
Happy wedding to all my dearest friends. I hope your ‘first night’ is not going to be as terrible as what I have been told.
Getting Married? (A Gift for Icha)
Due to the uncertainty of my package’s arrival,
here’s one special post for you, Icha!
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Nikah Muda
Suatu hari saya baru bangun untuk bersiap sahur, mama menyampaikan sebuah berita yang cukup mengagetkan bagi saya:
salah seorang teman dekat saya semasa SD akan melangsungkan pernikahannya bulan depan.
Saya kaget bukan kepalang.
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Marriageable Virgin
And why is it the women who have to be virgins?
Why suffer torment to satisfy an asshole?
Because the man who demands “virginity” from a woman is nothing but an asshole!
Why don’t we behave as westerners do!?
For them, since the problem of sex is resolved, they can move on to other things!
This is the reason they progress!
Embroideries – Marjane Satrapi
A man could sleep with as many women as he liked, but when it came to sex, there were still quite a few people in society who clung to the old-fashioned notion that a woman shouldn’t have too many partners,
oh, a woman could certainly have some sex – indeed, it was expected.
But there seemed to be some unspoken limit as to the number of men a woman could bed,
and having passed that limit, a woman can no longer consider “marriageable”
Trading Up – Candance Bushnell (p.14)